Welcome to WAFFLE. Magazine’s First Advice Column: “Jorzy Talks”
- Jordyn Mayes
- Aug 4
- 3 min read
Feeling lost in the chaos of change? You're not alone. In the debut of our advice column, Jorzy Talks, we dive into overwhelm, discipline, clutter, and the courage it takes to keep the faith when life doesn’t go as planned.
By Jorzy
Hey love, welcome to the first-ever installment of Jorzy Talks, the place inside WAFFLE. Magazine where we take off the masks, loosen the grip, and get honest about what it really feels like to live, dream, and sometimes just survive in this wild world. The goal? To build a space where we can figure things out together. Community-style, real and authentic. And today, we’re getting into it.
Let’s talk about feeling overwhelmed. Not just “I forgot to answer an email” overwhelmed. I mean that deep, soul-spinning, can’t-catch-a-breath kind of overwhelmed. That feeling when you’ve got a thousand dreams sitting on your shoulders while real life keeps rolling like a freight train. Rent is due, group chats are blowing up, your phone battery is on 2%, and somehow, you’re supposed to keep your vision board in motion and your spirit intact.
It’s the moment when change comes crashing in. Maybe a new job, a loss, a move, a breakup, and suddenly the control you thought you had feels like a mirage. Your mind is racing, everything feels urgent, and clarity? Nowhere to be found. You start asking yourself: Am I behind? Am I doing this right? Why does everything feel like too much?
Here’s the thing. When the blessings start pouring in, the responsibilities double up too. That’s the fine print nobody tells you about success. You get what you prayed for, and then you’ve got to figure out how to hold it all. And juggle it. And not drop the glass balls while you’re figuring out if one of them was even yours to carry in the first place.
Add money to the mix? Whew. It becomes a whole different beast. Money can open doors, but it can also chain you to a version of life that doesn’t feel like yours. And let’s not even get started on clutter. Mental, emotional, physical. Clutter keeps us from breathing. It tangles up the discipline we need to even see our goals clearly. Because without discipline, nothing moves. And without money, the moves feel limited. Without clarity? We’re just spinning.
And yet, here’s the twist. Not everything that feels big is actually insurmountable. The system we’re living in (especially in America) is designed to keep us structured, scheduled, and afraid to break away. It says play it safe, follow the steps, don’t rock the boat. But sometimes, the exact thing you need to do is jump out of that boat. Leap into the water. Swim in the unknown. Because you won’t know what’s on the other side until you trust yourself enough to find out.
Still, it’s real to feel guilty when life is hard and you still want more. When people are losing loved ones, battling illness, or working three jobs to stay afloat, how dare you talk about burnout from chasing your dreams, right?
But here’s a truth: pain isn’t a competition. Your overwhelm is valid, even if someone else is going through worse. This isn’t about who’s allowed to feel tired, it’s about recognizing when your soul is asking for a pause, a shift, or a deeper kind of care.
So what can we do about all this?
First, give yourself permission to feel messy. To not have it all together. Let go of the illusion of control. It was never real anyway. Replace control with presence. Be where your feet are. Start small. Get quiet. Make one clear decision a day. You don’t need to solve your whole life this week.
Second, remember these four things: finances, clutter, faith, and discipline. Check in with those areas. Are your finances a mess? Are your spaces or relationships cluttered? Is your discipline shaky? Start untangling one knot at a time. You can’t leap forward without looking at what’s weighing you down.
And most importantly, have faith. Not the kind that ignores reality, but the kind that knows reality isn’t the whole story. Life will throw curveballs. That’s a guarantee. But you’re more than what you’re going through. And you’re not as alone as you think. Look around. People are quietly fighting battles and still finding ways to laugh, love, build, dream. So can you.
Take this with you: you don’t have to get it all right to be moving in the right direction. Breathe. Begin again. You’re allowed to not have all the answers. You’re allowed to want more. You’re allowed to rest.
We’re all just figuring it out. Together.
Until next time,
Jorzy
Got something on your heart? Questions, chaos, or just need a space to talk it out?
Write to Jorzy Talks and let’s chop it up in the next column.
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